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Rules, Agreements, Boundaries, and Limits (redux)
Taking a look back at our post on boundaries, agreements, rules, and limits to continue this ongoing conversation, and build more nuance.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Oct 23, 20238 min read


Behaviors People Engage In When They Are Jealous
Continuing in our series on jealousy we break down more of the behaviors people engage in while jealous, often to avoid feeling other thing

Karyn Wittmeyer
Oct 16, 20236 min read


Jealousy As A Route To Identifying Your Needs
This post delves into what that jealousy may be masking. What are the feelings under it, and how do those help you identify needs that

Karyn Wittmeyer
Oct 9, 20238 min read


Your Guide to Identifying and Understanding Jealousy
The first in a series on jealousy. Helping you understand what it is, what it isn't, and how to navigate it.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Oct 2, 20238 min read


How Can I Fix Emotional Intimacy In My Nonmonogamous Relationships?
Continuing the series on emotional intimacy. How to address concerns when your relationship doesn't feel emotionally intimate.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Sep 25, 20237 min read


How Can I Tell If I'm Emotionally Intimate?
This post is part of our ongoing series on emotional intimacy, what it is, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you're struggling with it.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Sep 11, 20235 min read


Best Dating Apps (and places) for Nonmonogamous Relationships
Dating is hard!! It's even more complicated in todays world where so many things are virtual, and many don't understand nonmonogamy.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Aug 21, 20235 min read


Mutuality vs. Autonomy in Nonmonogamous Relationships
Learn what mutuality and autonomy are, the spectrum, and how to find the "sweet spot" where you feel safe, secure, and balanced in yourself.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Aug 14, 20236 min read


When Agreements Go Bad
People make agreements in nonmonogamy for many reasons, often it is to help avoid conflict and hurt feelings. Many early agreements fail.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Jul 17, 20238 min read


Polyamory Form Focus: Polyfidelitous Structures and Unicorn Hunting
Unicorn hunting has a really bad reputation in nonmonogamous communities, especially polyamorous ones. There is stigma, and ethical concerns

Karyn Wittmeyer
Jul 10, 20235 min read


The 5 Most Common But Least Useful Agreements In Nonmonogamy
Listing five very common, but very difficult to follow or unhealthy, agreements in nonmonogamy.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Jul 3, 20237 min read


Rules, Agreements, and Boundaries, Oh My!
Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all confusing and often interchanged. Here we help you learn about them, and how to identify yours.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Jun 19, 20237 min read


NRE and Understanding What You Want Out of a Relationship.
Our final installment in the NRE series. Looking at what you want out of your relationship so you can choose how you act.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Jun 5, 20236 min read


New Relationship Energy and Love - What’s the difference, anyway?
Continuing the NRE series. What is the difference between NRE and Love?

Karyn Wittmeyer
May 22, 20238 min read


New Relationship Energy and Attachment!
Continuing the NRE series. We discuss what attachment is, and how it impacts how we experience NRE!

Karyn Wittmeyer
May 8, 20236 min read


How to Make Sure Your Relationship is "Ethical" and "Consensual"
What do "ethical" and "consensual" actually mean? How do those apply to your behaviors and decisions?

Karyn Wittmeyer
May 1, 20237 min read


What Is New Relationship Energy?
What is New Relationship Energy (NRE)? Why do people talk about it so much? What's there to fear about it?

Karyn Wittmeyer
Apr 24, 20235 min read


5 Things Non-monogamous Relationships Won't Fix
Five problems that people often try to fix through nonmonogamy.

Karyn Wittmeyer
Apr 10, 20234 min read
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